I feel rather desperate during the past months/years. I need plenty of time to write/fix/proof/calculate/... my papers, some of which, however, have been frequently subjected to rejects from journals. On the other hand, my girlfriend always complain that I didn't spend too much time to make her happy. Note: not simply to spend time to be with her, but you have to focus'' on her feelings, in details, not simply enjoy the time of being together. Sometimes I feel rather tired, I couldn't even focus on my papers, e.g., during the calculations, I might be disturbed by responding her messages instantly, otherwise, you will get more trouble...
The result is that, if we got into quarrels and maybe initiated a cold war'' for two or three days, I would like to grasp the opportunity to make a great progress on my paper. I feel sometimes to be rather ridiculous, something must be wrong...I dont know.
I know the fact that many people have to take care of many staffs, between career and the family. But now I don't feel good, although we love each other (no fundamental conflicts), I am curious of, how did others do regarding the issue?
Any suggestions?